By Jamil Zaki
The title spoke to me directly at a time I needed such a thing. Zaki distinguishes cynicism from skepticism and hope from optimism. The aim is to be skeptical and hopeful while avoiding a spiral into destructive cynicism and without being naive.
- There were many examples of how everyone (regardless of position on the political spectrum) views people more negatively than they really are. Honesty is underestimated, selfishness overestimated.
- The gap between right and left is also exaggerated in our perceptions. Both sides think that the other side is more extreme than they are and that they agree on fewer things that they do.
- Cynicism is contagious.
- Revealing a negative view of others causes others to behave more like the negative image. That sets up a self fulfilling prophesy and feedback loop.
- Inequality was awful in the 19th century before improving into the mid 20th. Things have been bad before and improved.
- There was a description of Sisyphus which pointed out that it’s only an awful punishment if Sisyphus can only be satisfied by reaching the top of the hill. If he enjoys pushing the boulder, it’s a different story. Perhaps there’s value in the effort. This reminded me of Man’s Search For Meaning. Trying to live according to principals regardless of circumstances and outcome.
- Cynicism is convenient for powerful elites. If everyone throws in the towel, then they can continue to take advantage.
- I was definitely in a cynical hole before reading this book. I’m convinced that I don’t want to be that. Cynicism is not better for me, my relationships, for the world around me. Admitting things are tough or that certain elements are not directly in my control is fine. That’s not reason for surrender.